Why You Crave Closeness But Pull Away When You Get It
Why do you crave closeness but pull away when you get it? If you shut down, go numb, or start a fight right when love gets close — nothing is wrong with you.
Welcome to Elisha's Space, a sanctuary for healing, growth, and for the kind of honest conversations that actually change things. I'm Elisha, your host, a counselor, an author, and someone who has sat in the same stuck places you have.
Today's episode is practical. Clinical, but pastoral. We're unpacking https://app.vidiq.com/research/search?term=fear+of+intimacythrough the nervous system — why your body hits the brake when your heart wants closeness, how https://app.vidiq.com/research/search?term=avoidant+attachmentand https://app.vidiq.com/research/search?term=anxious+attachmentshow up in marriage, and a 3-minute regulation routine to interrupt the cycle. This isn't visualization, this is physiology.
In this video:
* Why closeness feels unsafe for trauma survivors
* https://app.vidiq.com/research/search?term=attachment+stylesand the pursuer / withdrawer dance
* How to communicate when you want to shut down
* Scripture breath prayer + regulation practice
So stay with me. Let's do it.
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Until next time, you are not too much, and you are not too far, and you are not alone.
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